Discussing gay marriage

Sam Fletcher discusses gay marriage an Indaba Coffee
Sam Fletcher discusses gay marriage an Indaba Coffee

Washington’s same-sex marriage legislation is tugging at the heartstrings of the state’s faith community.

Is it both a legal and a religious issue? Should the church respond? If so, what’s the appropriate response?

About a dozen people came together to discuss these topics Monday evening at Indaba Coffee for  “Can We Talk? An Open and Civil Conversation about Marriage,” an informal Referendum 74 discussion group.

“We’re all here because we hope and think that as human being we can do better than name calling,” said the Rev. Liv Larson Andrews. “The Body of Christ can do better than mudslinging, and the Body of Christ should be able to disagree with itself fairly and robustly.”

The group, made of people of different faith and political backgrounds – though mostly liberal — discussed the purpose of marriage, the history of the tradition and the church’s involvement in it, among other subjects.

On Monday night about a dozen people gathered at Indaba Coffee to talk about Referendum 74.

	What's your view on the issue?
On Monday night about a dozen people gathered at Indaba Coffee to talk about Referendum 74.

What's your view on the issue?

The Rev. Tom Altepeter, of St. Clare Ecumenical Catholic Community, said he wonders if the church should at all be involved in the same-sex marriage debate, noting it’s a political issue.

“What role does the Bible have at all in this, seeing as how it’s a legal discussion?,” he asked.

He said forcing Christian perspectives isn’t fair to America’s other faith groups.

But Eric Blauer, pastor of Jacob’s Well and a SpokaneFAVS blogger, said marriage is a biblical narrative, a sacred discussion and a basic religious community event.

Aaron Weirdert agreed that marriage has a long history in religious communities and said even though Washington has “Everything But Marriage” rights for same-sex couples, the concept of marriage is significant and has meaning.

“It (marriage) brings something to the unit…No matter which side you’re on, it’s still important,” he said.

But Blauer rebuttled, saying what many have said — if Washington legalizes gay marriage, what’s next?

Bishop Blase Cupich, of the Catholic Diocese of Spokane, for example, recently wrote, “If marriage is only about relationships, why limit unions to two people? Why does the new law include the traditional prohibition of close kinship unions for both opposite and same sex couples?”

Pastor Eric Blauer (left) and Rev. Liv Larson Andrews discuss gay marriage and the church.
Pastor Eric Blauer (left) and Rev. Liv Larson Andrews discuss gay marriage and the church.

“If I say yes to this, what am I going to yes to down the road?” Blauer said. “Who gets to determine what the narrative is?”

The group agreed that if one loses focus it could be a slippery slope, but urged those worried about future issues to focus on the issue at hand.

Though the group only met for an hour, it touched on many issues and Larson said she hopes people went home realizing that marriage is a blessing for the world and the community and hopes to have more conversations about the issue in the future.


Rev. Liv Larson Andrews, Sam Fletcher, Neal Schindler and Eric Blauer attended this event and are SpokaneFAVS contributors.


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About Tracy Simmons

Tracy Simmons is an award winning journalist specializing in religion reporting, digital entrepreneurship and social journalism. In her 15 years on the religion beat, Simmons has tucked a notepad in her pocket and found some of her favorite stories aboard cargo ships in New Jersey, on a police chase in Albuquerque, in dusty Texas church bell towers, on the streets of New York and in tent cities in Haiti.
Simmons has worked as a multimedia journalist for newspapers across New Mexico, Texas and Connecticut. Currently she serves as the executive director of SpokaneFAVS.com, a digital journalism start-up covering religion news and commentary in Spokane, Wash. She is also a Scholarly Assistant Professor at Washington State University.

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  1. Liv Larson Andrews

    Thanks for coming and documenting us, Tracy. I love that the sign for the Book Parlor is just above Sam’s head in his picture. These conversations are just what we hope happens in our space.

  2. Thanks for letting a reporter poke around!

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