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Do you have advice on how to respond when people argue that Mormonism is a “cult”?
Great question! First, let’s talk about the word “argue.” I think it’s rarely, if ever, beneficial to argue about religion. If it’s possible to share, discuss, explain, provide perspective, listen, ask questions, and have a conversation about religion — wonderful! If the only possible outcome of an exchange is arguing, I submit that it’s probably not the most productive or uplifting use of anyone’s time. Little is accomplished by banging your head against a wall…besides giving yourself a headache.
Getting back to your question, a lot depends on your relationship with the person, the setting in which the topic comes up, and the likelihood of a constructive conversation. Is it a random comment on your blog from a person on the Internet with a history of rude and dismissive remarks about individuals or other religions? It may be best to simply wish them well and not engage. Is it a sincere question from a good friend who heard something about Mormonism that doesn’t seem to fit with what she knows of you? By all means, have the conversation.
To the specific concern of Mormonism being called a cult, I’ve found that when a person deliberately uses an inflammatory word like “cult,” it often indicates a lack of interest in real conversation. The connotation of the word brings up images of mass suicides, brainwashing, violence and abuse. That’s a pretty offensive label to slap on anyone without hard evidence.
In my experience, that word is intended to shock, offend, demean and “other-ize,” not to open a sincere conversation with a goal of better understanding each other. When someone starts throwing the word “cult” around, I generally point out the disrespectful nature of the word and then, if they persist, step out of the conversation, just as I would if someone were using racial epithets or derogatory terms for LGBT individuals.
However, I’ve had some great conversations with friends who came to me concerned or confused about things they’d heard about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, including the accusation that it’s a “cult.” If you feel that it could be a productive conversation, it helps to first ask what definition they’re using. In the most general sense, “cult” simply means “a particular system of religious worship.” Sometimes it helps to point out that pretty much every faith and belief system can be called a “cult” under that broad definition.
In common usage, however, “cult” sometimes seems to mean “any religion that has beliefs that make me uncomfortable, or that I don’t understand, or that are significantly different from what I believe.” Wikipedia – that fount of all knowledge — defines a cult as “a religious group or other organization with deviant and novel beliefs and practices.” But it goes on to point out, “whether any particular group’s beliefs are sufficiently deviant or novel enough to be considered a cult is often unclear, and thus establishing a precise definition of cults is problematic.”
It’s a pretty slippery slope. Let’s look at the word “deviant”, for example — who gets to decide what qualifies as deviant? How much difference does there need to be for a belief to be considered deviant from the norm – and, for that matter, who defines the norm?
So, if you feel it could be a positive discussion, try to pin down exactly what their concerns are so you can address those directly rather than the amorphous, poorly defined accusation of “cult.”
I’m going to end with a plug for Coffee Talk this upcoming weekend. The topic is the desensitization of language and how our words are important. The words we choose to use and the words we choose not to use can open up a beautiful dialogue that brings us together or they can erect walls that separate us further. Particularly in interfaith interaction, when we’re discussing and learning about beliefs and topics so close to people’s hearts, we should be especially careful to use words that will continue the conversation rather than shut it down.
Emily H. Geddes was born to two physicists and grew up as a Navy brat. Born-and-raised as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, she holds a bachelor’s degree in theatre from Brigham Young University, and earned an MBA from Eastern Washington University.