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Viewpoints: Preventing sexual assaults

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Viewpoints is a SpokaneFāVS feature where our writers respond to a weekly question. Readers are invited to participate by posting in the comment section below.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, a time when people raise awareness about sexual violence and how it can be prevented.

So, we asked FāVS writers to chime on this week’s Viewpoints:

How should religious and/or community organizations deal with supporting victims and preventing sexual assault within their memberships?

Steven Simmons: Believe the victim

Steven Simmons
Steven Simmons

A common refrain of survivors is that the fallout from reporting abuse can be greater than the initial trauma and compound the initial abuse. Unfortunately, the first impulse of leaders is often to protect the institution instead of the victim. This can lead down a horrific path of minimizing the abuse, veiled threats, honor code investigations, church disciplinary actions, even leaders publicly defending the abuser and shaming the victim.

What can community leaders do in order to better prevent abuse and support victims? And what should they avoid doing?

First, trust and believe the victim. Never question or suggest fault in their memory, their motives, or their own behavior and emotions. For adult victims, do not share their story unless they give you permission (even with the authorities).

Second, know that your first priority is to the victim. There may be riots in the pews, reputations tainted, individual lives destroyed, families torn apart: none of that should ever stand in the way of providing support to a victim in your community.

Third, practice compassionate listening: don’t give advice, judgement, analysis, or insert your own emotional responses into their story. This is important to do within your community before abuse happens, as it will let them know you are a safe person that will be there for them when they truly need it.

Fourth, know your local resources for abuse survivors. Educate yourself on the experiences of survivors – listen to their stories. When resources are needed, provide them, and be there to support them through the process.

Fifth, do not focus on forgiveness, redemption, or trying to find “meaning” in the abuse. Many communities try to expel any negative emotions surrounding an event at the expense of the victim, eager to compel a victim to forgive and offer redemption to abusers. By letting the “redeemed” abuser back into the community, you are telling the victim their abuser’s redemption is being placed above their safety and have created anything but a safe space for that victim or any other survivor in your community.

Andy CastroLang: We need to talk about “rape culture”

Andy CastroLang
Andy CastroLang

I would like to see more communities really talk about the whole “rape culture” towards women, that keeps us anxious and alert, hyper aware and downright afraid for our lives and our children’s lives.

I want men to begin to understand what this means and help dismantle it.

Matthew Sewell: Training is needed

Matthew Sewell
Matthew Sewell

One of the myriad of positive changes to come out of the horrifying sex abuse scandal in the Catholic Church was the instituting of mandatory Safe Environment training for any person who will come in contact with youth at any point. As a result, where beforehand perhaps the safety of children was taken for granted — if not wholesale, then at least taken too much for granted —it’s now, in every diocese in the world, kept at the forefront of every conversation surrounding children in the church.

Aside from that, for those who have been victims of rape or other sexual assault, the church is a positive presence and a listening ear for those who seek it out. Through things like Holy Mass and the sacrament of Confession, people are offered a place, we believe, to receive grace and healing from Jesus himself, whether through the Eucharist or through the priest acting in persona Christi (literally, “in the person of Christ), and the community offers them a further haven for recovery.
Readers, chime in! How would you answer this week’s Viewpoints question?

 

Matthew Sewell

About Matthew Sewell

Matthew Sewell, a Denver Broncos fan and amateur Chestertonian, loves golf, music, truth and good food. A lifelong Catholic, he graduated from a Catholic college (Carroll College; Helena, Mont.) but experienced a "re-version" to the faith during graduate studies at a state school (N. Arizona; Flagstaff, Ariz.). Irony is also one of his favorite things. He and his wife currently reside in Spokane, though they're Montanans at heart. He blogs at mtncatholic.com.

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