I almost got away with it. I had the makings of a lie that would have benefited me and hurt no one.
Here are the basics. First, I somehow managed to injure myself this past week and the price to have everything taken care of is sure to be astronomical. Second, I found a defect in a product that could have caused my injury (it did not — but it could have). And third, contacting the company and asking them to pay for my medical attention would not hurt anyone.
So the wheels in my head started turning and I was pretty sure I was just that clever. And, wanting to show just how clever I am, I told a close friend and several acquaintances about my plan.
It turns out that my plan may have the capability of hurting someone: myself.
Several days after disclosing my plan, my close friend questioned my integrity and began to doubt the truth of all of our previous conversations. Ouch. This revelation was especially painful because,
in all honesty, I have never lied to this person — but my little plan threw everything into question. Ouch. The simple truth is that a mistruth is a mistruth. The integrity one owns is only as strong as her/his moment of least integrity.
And as much as we would like to label certain things “sin,” a better label is “transgression”. The term “transgression” (while not used frequently) is not specifically religious while “sin” clearly has a
religious connotation. While both mean (in some way, shape, or form) a misstep or a missing of the ideal, “transgression” is not tied to a faith tradition.
I think, then, that it must be established that there are some pretty universal truths. It is wrong to lie — even if no one will get hurt — because someone can always get hurt (this does not necessarily
apply when a woman asks if a certain pair of pants makes a certain bodily region look a hint large). I think that my favorite universal truth is that we all must have a personal moral compass. Clearly, we learn as we go and we usually can determine what is right or wrong on our own. But, as demonstrated by my elaborate plan, it sometimes takes the words of a friend or acquaintance to make us realize that we are not going the right way.
You may have noticed that much discussion has taken place over the past several weeks regarding the pro-atheism billboards around Spokane. A local news station posted a story about them on Facebook and asked for comments from the public about their feelings. The initial response was from a woman who simply stated, “I don’t know who I would lean on in times of trial or tribulation if I did not have God…” The following response simply stated, “We would lean on friends and family!” The simple truth is that we all have a moral compass — some of us find it in our religion or faith tradition while others of us have friends and family to keep us in check.
Clearly, there are attributes that trump religious traditions and apply to all of humanity, but it seems difficult to harness them outside of religious language. Integrity is universal. Truth is universal. There is no religious tradition that owns either of these attributes.
So, to the one who called me out on my potential lie, thank you and I apologize. And for all the rest, please remember that your words do damage someone (even if it is yourself). “Sins” can be forgiven but “transgressions” take time to heal.